Luminous Reality

Focus Point

Luminous Reality

Notes taken from zenhabits.net

In our busy lives, it's easy to overlook the simple beauty around us. We rush through our days, checking off our to-do lists, and forget to take a moment to appreciate the world we live in. However, when we slow down and practice awareness, we can see the luminous reality that surrounds us.

The Practice of Awareness

The practice of awareness involves being fully present in the moment and noticing our surroundings without judgment. We can start by simply taking a deep breath and focusing on our senses. What do we see, hear, feel, smell, and taste? By tuning into our senses, we can appreciate the beauty of the present moment.

Appreciating Impermanence

Everything in life is impermanent, and when we accept this truth, we can appreciate the beauty of each moment. We can enjoy a beautiful sunset knowing that it won't last forever. We can cherish time spent with loved ones knowing that it's precious and fleeting.

Embracing Our Connections

We are all connected in this world, and when we recognize this, we can find beauty in our relationships. We can appreciate the kindness of strangers and the support of friends and family. By connecting with others, we can find meaning and purpose in our lives.

Living in Gratitude

Living in gratitude means recognizing the abundance in our lives and being thankful for it. Instead of focusing on what we lack, we can focus on what we have and appreciate it fully. By practicing gratitude, we can cultivate a sense of contentment and joy in our everyday lives.

Takeaway

By practicing awareness, appreciating impermanence, embracing our connections, and living in gratitude, we can see the luminous reality of our lives. We can find beauty in the present moment and cultivate a sense of peace and joy in our hearts.

Coaches Q&A

Q: I recently found out my ex girlfriend became a cam girl.

We have been broken up for almost a year and I was starting to get over her, when a friend showed me her profile. I have been subscribing to her content and it is driving me bonkers, but I cannot help it.

She is such a smart girl with a bright future ahead of her. It really bothers me that she is now doing this. It has brought back feelings and a desire to help her.

I sent her a few messages and she has not responded. What do I do?

- B. L. UK

A: As a coach who specializes in helping people with their emotions, the first thing that I would suggest is for you to make a list of all that you feel about your ex-girlfriend's situation. For each item in your list, ask yourself, "Why do I feel this?". Then try to answer these questions: - Why do I want to help her? - If she does reply to me, what do I expect her to say? - How do I want to help her? Let's say you do get to help her, what would that give your heart? Your answers to these questions will reveal deep desires that you might be trying to fill with things that will only make you want for more.

• Clarice Cabanlit, Life Coach at Quiet Minds LLC, USA

A: It's understandable that finding out your ex-girlfriend is a cam girl has brought up complicated feelings for you. However, it's important to respect her choices and boundaries. Sending her messages may not be the best course of action if she hasn't responded. If you feel the need to reach out, consider sending a single message expressing your concern for her well-being and letting her know you are available if she ever needs someone to talk to. However, it's crucial to understand that ultimately, it is her decision to pursue this career and you should not try to control or change her path. It may be helpful to seek support from friends or a well wisher to process your emotions in a healthy way.

• Rendeep R, Virtual Coach & Mentor, Indian Author's Academy Member,

  India

Are you gearing up for a salary negotiation?

Notes taken from roberthalf.com

The thought of negotiating your salary may seem daunting, but it's an important skill to have. Don't worry, with a little bit of preparation and confidence, you can successfully negotiate a salary that reflects your worth.

Do Your Research

The first step in any salary negotiation is to research what the average salary range is for your position, industry, and location. Use online resources like Glassdoor and Payscale to get an idea of what your peers are earning.

Consider Your Total Compensation 

Salary is only one part of your compensation package. Benefits like health insurance, retirement plans, and vacation time can add significant value to your overall compensation. Make sure to consider these benefits when negotiating your salary.

Know Your Worth

What are your skills and experience worth in today's job market? Make a list of your accomplishments and the value you bring to your employer. Use this as a reference when negotiating your salary.

Practice Makes Perfect

Role-playing with a friend or family member can help you feel more confident and comfortable when it comes time to negotiate your salary. Practicing your negotiation skills will also help you prepare for any potential pushback.

Be Confident

Believe in yourself and the value you bring to the table. Express confidence in your abilities and make a compelling case for why you deserve a higher salary.

Listen to the Other Side

Negotiation is a two-way conversation. Listen to the other party's perspective and be open to compromise. You may not get everything you want, but finding a middle ground can be a win-win situation.

Take Your Time

Don't rush through the negotiation process. Take your time and carefully consider your options before accepting any offer. If you're unsure about a particular offer, ask for some time to think it over.

Be Gracious

Remember to thank the other party for their time and consideration, regardless of the outcome. Even if you don't get the salary you were hoping for, maintaining a positive relationship with your employer is crucial for future success.

The Law of Attraction

Notes taken from The Secret by Rhonda Byrne

Are you feeling unhappy, unfulfilled, and undervalued in your life? You are not alone. The author, Rhonda Byrne, felt the same way until she decided to take action and find out what the secret to success and a fulfilling life is. In her quest for knowledge, she researched various texts, including those by philosophers like Ralph Waldo Emerson, William Blake, and Plato, to discover the key to a more meaningful life.

The Law of Attraction

Through her research, Byrne discovered the law of attraction, one of the most powerful principles of the universe. The law of attraction posits that what you put out into the world is what you will receive in return. This means that if you project anger, negativity, and selfishness, you will only attract more things to be frustrated about. Conversely, if you focus on kindness, positivity, and gratitude, you will attract positive things into your life. Simply put, you attract what you tend to think and feel.

Take Control of Your Life

Once you accept this principle, you realize that it is already affecting your life. But the good news is that you can take control of your thoughts and feelings to attract positive things into your life. You can make a conscious effort to be aware of what you put into your mind and how your thoughts influence your mental and emotional health. The best part is that you don't have to wait for anything to get started. You can take positive steps right now to change your life for the better.

Takeaway

"The Secret" is a powerful book that teaches us how to take control of our lives and attract positivity. By focusing on the law of attraction and choosing to be kind, positive, and grateful, we can manifest positive things into our lives. Start making positive changes today and see the difference it can make in your life.

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